Maeyonnaise

A friend of mine mentioned that once again her ex is stalking her. She has told him time and again that she really does not want to have anything to do with him anymore. She has given him a chance after the way he came back after 2 years of sudden disappearance. Later on, we discovered that he has gotten himself in some serious problem by getting a girl pregnant and apparently got forced to marry her.

It’s amazing how guys like this just won’t quit. I can’t understand how he even has the face or the guts to keep bugging my friend being the monstrous jerk that he was… twice in her life!!!

It’s quite scary to be single these days. This is even more disturbing when you start to date in a foreign city like Dubai. Unlike in our home towns, where families know each other and you can somewhat trace the lineage of a guy you’re dating through their families or friends, here it’s like diving into an unlit aquarium. You can’t truly see whether you are faced with an angel fish or a pyranha. All you can really know about the guys you date is what you see or what they tell you. Since most people here are here to work and have all their families in their home countries, they can tell you the biggest lie they can and get away with it. I have seen it and heard it hundreds of times here. They claim they are single and unmarried when in reality, they are supporting their wife and children in their homeland whilst dating you here.

I came across this site http://www.WomanSavers.com. Imagine having a site where you can have a background check of whether you are the nth victim of an emotionally or physically abusive male partner. In a transient city like Dubai, this would definitely be useful. Should I say, “Girl Power”? Well, I think it is more like, “protecting each other”.

What striked me most about this site is they help physically abused women and children. When I was in high school, I remember doing a paper on Violence. I covered the subject on women who were abused by a man in their life. In my research back then, I can’t forget that these abused women usually would blame themselves for the way they were being treated or would blindly deny themselves of help from outside the home in fear that it is a “private matter”. It is good to know that there are people out there who are giving a voice to these women and prevent others from falling into the same circumstances.

We are not objects. We are not places to conquer. We are not slaves. We need to love and be loved in return.

Who else can best protect women… but those who knows what it’s like to be one.